Do not ignore the fundamentals of right and wrong for love nor money. At the core of us all are things that are non-negotiable and that we can’t bring ourselves to give up or relinquish because it’s part of what makes us human, good and whole. To ignore all of that, for the sake of things and people, will lead to a dead end because it inevitably bites us back in the butt and makes us feel even worse for knowing better in the first place.
It’s easy to fall in love with the good that people exhibit but if you’re going to enter into a life long union with someone, it’s important that you understand whether or not you can live with the bad. One of the reasons why we often fail to do this is because we place a lot of emphasis on the outward rather than the inward. For instance, I’d rather teach a man how to cook than have to teach him how to be a gentleman. I’d rather have a problem with him leaving the toilet seat up than have a problem with him not knowing how to support me at my lowest. I’d rather fuss about his fashion sense than have to fuss at him for not knowing how to be a good father to my kids. However, most importantly, we have to appreciate that difficulties, upsets and hard times serve a purpose. They are the tests and trials that separates the friends from the foes, the hypocrite from the genuine, the lies from the truth. Better to spend your time knowing someone than waste your time trying to get rid of them.