Give me a person who will tell me their intentions, good or bad, anytime of the day, any day of the week. Whether or not you like it, at least what you see is what you get. However, miss me with that shy, silent type. The one who is surrounded with this air of mystery and intrigue. The one who says very little but acts secretively. They say silent rivers run deep – sometimes too deep for comfort.
Need I comment further? You won’t need to let him know that you’re hurting, he will feel it. You won’t need to prompt him to do little love gestures for you, it will come naturally. You won’t have to argue with him to care, that will be second nature. You won’t have to beg him to not hurt you – he will know better. Love will not need to give an account for whether or not it’s there. It will speak for itself through the way your partner treats you.
There is no problem in loving others, just so long as you don’t love them at the expense of yourself, at the expense of your happiness and at the expense of your peace of mind. In life, the key to enjoyment and fulfilment is balance. No true love will ever require you to go against what you know is right and it will certainly not accept that you be less than yourself. Make the love you have for yourself be the benchmark for the kind of love you wish to receive from others. True love starts from you. What you accept for yourself is what you will attract from others.
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You know those couples all too well. They play the part in portraying a lovely picture of being two peas in a pod, inseparable and so deeply in-tuned with each other. However, once the onlookers are gone and the show is over, they barely even utter a word to each other in private. Another scenario is where you will find one out of the two trying desperately to give the impression of a ‘happy union’ to their ‘audience’ while the other partner is either nowhere to be found or vaguely interested in even being present.
Even further still, you will have the person looking stunning and fresh before the relationship. Yet after a month or two, they appear gaunt, worried and insecure. It’s bad enough when we deceive each other but there is something about deceiving yourself which makes the situation all the more dire. To actively participate in suppressing your own instincts, quieting your inner voice and going against your intuition speaks not only to self-sabotage but also to condemning yourself to perpetual unhappiness in the name of pretense and make-believe. Being in love shouldn’t look like serving time. If it does, time to have a closer look at who the jailer is.
A lot of us believe the movies and stories that we read about true love never dying. Even when unfairly torn apart, separated by time and distance, lovers who are truly in love always find their way back to each other. I love the idea of this, just like anyone else, but the reality of our lives is that the love will last so long as the illusion of having a wonderful partner endures or so long as the willingness, of both partners, to try and make the effort remains. However, regardless of how strong and compelling the feelings of love are in the beginning – disrespect, pride and ego will always sabotage your ‘happy ever after’.