Don’t you just love those people who were nowhere to be found when you were down and out but suddenly appear out of the woodworks with all their fanciful ideas, opinions and advice when you start to make some breakthrough? Better still, you will come across those people who are ready and eager to tell you that your dreams are unattainable and your goals unrealistic – not fully grasping the fact that you making it this far is a miracle by itself. Then it starts to become laughable when they take offence to the fact that you respectfully but firmly decline any so called ‘help’ or ‘support’ that they are claiming to offer. As far as I am concerned, if you weren’t there during my struggle, you have no business sharing in my success. If you have never had the courage to do the impossible, you have no business advising me about doing what has never been done before. Lastly, if you don’t believe in what I hope to achieve, use that energy to park your derriere on the sidelines instead of trying to convince me that I will fail. If you’ve decided that you will succeed in your endeavours then all that remains is hanging in there long enough to survive the roadblocks and delays that will inevitably mark your journey – that includes people and circumstances alike.
Do not ignore the fundamentals of right and wrong for love nor money. At the core of us all are things that are non-negotiable and that we can’t bring ourselves to give up or relinquish because it’s part of what makes us human, good and whole. To ignore all of that, for the sake of things and people, will lead to a dead end because it inevitably bites us back in the butt and makes us feel even worse for knowing better in the first place.
Give me a person who will tell me their intentions, good or bad, anytime of the day, any day of the week. Whether or not you like it, at least what you see is what you get. However, miss me with that shy, silent type. The one who is surrounded with this air of mystery and intrigue. The one who says very little but acts secretively. They say silent rivers run deep – sometimes too deep for comfort.
Need I comment further? You won’t need to let him know that you’re hurting, he will feel it. You won’t need to prompt him to do little love gestures for you, it will come naturally. You won’t have to argue with him to care, that will be second nature. You won’t have to beg him to not hurt you – he will know better. Love will not need to give an account for whether or not it’s there. It will speak for itself through the way your partner treats you.
It’s comical how people will bite off more than they can chew yet blame everything and everyone else for the fact that they are struggling to cope. The same applies to relationships where everyone is looking for someone who has their shit together while many of these same people remain blind to the fact that their shit is constantly falling apart. You don’t ask for a woman who is established, stable, smart and beautiful to settle for broken promises, little ambition, no effort and weak ass attempts at romance. You don’t expect to have a man who is honest, respectful, intelligent and forward-thinking to be happy with a woman who will always start but never finish stuff, never plan for the future and is more interested in her wardrobe than she is about any relationship. To expect much yet give little is genuinely punching above your belt. You either drop to a person’s level or make it that they rise to yours. We all operate on different mental and spiritual wavelenghts as we go through life. So I guess the key is in finding someone who is vibing on the same frequency when it comes to matters of the heart and mind.
Don’t you just love life’s little surprises? Those unexpected situations that you find yourself in that make you marvel at how quickly things can change and change for the better? Or those interesting people that you stumble across that make a difference to what would otherwise be an ordinary day? Without any effort on your part, everything has just come together and all that is required of you is to just be in the moment and live.