Don’t you just love those people who were nowhere to be found when you were down and out but suddenly appear out of the woodworks with all their fanciful ideas, opinions and advice when you start to make some breakthrough? Better still, you will come across those people who are ready and eager to tell you that your dreams are unattainable and your goals unrealistic – not fully grasping the fact that you making it this far is a miracle by itself. Then it starts to become laughable when they take offence to the fact that you respectfully but firmly decline any so called ‘help’ or ‘support’ that they are claiming to offer. As far as I am concerned, if you weren’t there during my struggle, you have no business sharing in my success. If you have never had the courage to do the impossible, you have no business advising me about doing what has never been done before. Lastly, if you don’t believe in what I hope to achieve, use that energy to park your derriere on the sidelines instead of trying to convince me that I will fail. If you’ve decided that you will succeed in your endeavours then all that remains is hanging in there long enough to survive the roadblocks and delays that will inevitably mark your journey – that includes people and circumstances alike.
Before we were introduced to the world of relationships, friendships, situationships etc., all we knew was ourselves. As a child, there was such a wonderful fascination with the world around us that we were content with projecting our imagination on objects that appealed to our sensory needs. Our sense of touch, smell, sight, hearing and taste were slowly awakened as we delved into a world of novelty and mystery. Since that time, we’ve relished having these experiences alone, never once feeling obligated to explain to the world our reason for being happy yet single and never once fearing the idea of making new discoveries all by ourselves. As we’ve grown, our need for companionship has likewise increased but sometimes at the expense of neglecting our very first and most abiding friend – ourselves. Regardless of what people choose to believe, that friend never leaves us. Those nights when we are left to our own thoughts, those times that we are racked with uncertainty and misgivings, those secret moments when we cry ourselves to sleep, no one else witnesses this except your nearest and dearest – you. We came into this world alone and we shall leave this world alone. Make it so that you leave this life with your bestfriend and not a stranger.
Everyone would like to believe that human beings are intuitive and self-aware to the point that they can understand the mistakes they make and even learn from them. When this occurs, at the very minimum, we make sure that we don’t repeat the same mistake. At the most, we use these experiences to transform and grow into better people. Therefore, it is clearly a tragedy when people have all these different life experiences yet learn nothing from them. Even when the consequences of the loss are staring them blatantly in the face or the repercussions are considerable and far-reaching, they may continue to live in blissful ignorance. Unfortunately, this reflects the approach of far too many people who don’t make life happen but allow life to happen to them.
Then again, living blissfully unaware of what is genuinely a loss may soften the blow of knowing that it has become another person’s gain.
In this day and age, it’s becoming all the more important to read between the lines and look beyond what is presented to you. The celebrity life culture, sensationalism and bandwagoning continues to spin out of control and too many are confusing fiction for fact. So when you’re flanked by all sides by such powerful forces of influence, it’s good to find like-minded people to relate to but even better when, above all the noise and distractions, you can still manage to think for yourself. Those who blindly follow are the ones who are easily misled. It’s time to create your own future and not wait for it to be determined for you.
Where I am today wasn’t where I thought I’d be some years ago and yet my mind still runs wild with possibilities, with expectations and with dreams. Everyone has their own idea of what success looks like and what seems to be a ‘given’ for some may be a miracle for others. What was the norm for you may have taken blood, sweat and tears to achieve for me. Either way, what encourages me is the fact that my subconscious and my dreams remain a constant reminder that there is still work to be done. The difference now is that instead of rushing to the finale, I’ve now learnt to enjoy the ride!